Who knows what they’re doing when it comes to parenting. It’s always trial and error, maybe more error and frustration, but we get it done. Sometimes we yell, cry even plead. It’s a roller coaster ride. Having kids is never easy but you can get through it.

I adopted my son as a single mother while in Lupus remission and with kidney failure (my kidneys were functioning but not very well). The adoption took two years which confirmed to me that it was meant to be. Within a year of the adoption, my kidneys failed. Yeah, that was a blow, but my new baby boy was the joy of my life and kept me moving forward.

When the doctor told me I had to start dialysis, I thought my life was over. I began writing daily letters to my son because I didn’t think I would be around long enough to see him grow up. It was a daily struggle trying to get dialysis in centre and taking care of a toddler. The letters I wrote were just an attempt at documenting our days and showing him how much he meant to me. Every letter ended with “I love you more than anything else in the world”. I said that to him every day and we still say it to each other even now. Fast forward 10 years and I have to admit there are still struggles but I’ve learned that I’m stronger than I think.